I used to blame my zodiac sign, which is Libra, for it but then I realised I just had a problem. Making decisions. I H A T E to do it. No matter if it is about what kind of movie we are going to watch, or what I want to eat in a restaurant; even the smallest decisions in life I find hard to make. The strange thing is, that when it comes to life important decisions, I often know what I want. I knew what kind of study I wanted to do and which path I wanted to follow to make a career. Sounds strange right? That you know everything you want to do when it comes to your future, but find it so hard to choose from the smallest things. Well, I thought I was the only one struggling with this but facts prove wrong.
Many people are like me and find it hard to make smaller decisions. In case you are this type of person you may want to continue reading. Because struggling with this doesn’t make you a less good person. In fact, you’re probably too good for the world. You want to please others constantly and make them happy by letting them decide for you. Think about the movies, which club to go to or what to eat. You’re happy as long as they’re happy. Well, think again. You’ve probably been disappointed a lot in life. Not because your friend choose pizza while you actually hoped for sushi. No. Just because not everybody is the same and thinks about you as well. So time to make a change and start being a better decision maker!
Even though I find it super hard, I try to make a decision when someone else ask me what to do. I always used to say; ‘Uhmm.. Well, you can choose. I’m fine’. Now I try to at least say something else like ‘Do you like Disney? Because I feel like watching some old movies’. Giving actually hints of what I really want. Start this small, but when you see people react good on your decisions, it’s getting easier and easier to make them. Here an over view of what to do:
MAKE A LIST
Sounds weird, but this can really help. If you make a list of all the things you don’t like to decide, you have an overview of what you have to work on. This can be from the smallest things I already mentioned, to bigger things like what study you want to follow or what your next job is going to be. Write down all your questions and thoughts. In this way it’s easier to make a conclusion.
JUST DO IT
Start small and begin with choosing what to eat during your girls night out or what kind of movie you are going to watch on your next date (men find it attractive when a woman knows what she wants. So an extra plus for you). When you start small, bigger will follow. If you believe in yourself you can work on making bigger decisions for the future because you know you do right.
When you finally make your own decisions, this doesn’t mean you have to live like Remi, all by hisself. Ask what others think of your decisions. Was to food choice good? What do you think of the house I am about to buy? Do you think it’s good for me if I change my job, because I feel like it? Others opinions are still important. Be independent and listen to your own voice, but take others experiences and advices for granted.