Confidence, we all struggle with it. Men, woman, young, old; it really doesn’t matter. We all have our insecurities and some know how to handle them better than others. It is that simple. In this post I am not going to teach you how to be more confident over all, but in daily situations. Want to know more about how to improve yourself and get more confident once and for all? Than I highly suggest checking out this post.
How ofter does it happen that you come somewhere and feel super insecure? Everybody seems to have a great time and know each other, while you sip on your water alone and look at your phone constantly to look at least a little interesting. I see this a lot happening on the events I attend and I have to admit, I am one of them. Sometimes I even hate events for it, because how miserable can you feel if everybody seems to have the time of their lives, while you want to disappear in the ground? Let’s start wit the fact that I am everything but a social girl, so I can talk from experience. I find it so hard to connect with others and introduce myself but, when I do that, I talking non stop. Strange right?
So the past few events it happened again; I was all by myself. But while looking around I found out that so many people who come alone, struggle with this. That is why I changed the game for myself. I try to look for those few people that look ‘lonely’ too and try to connect with them. When I take my seat, I just introduce myself, so you already have a short talk. Soon enough you find out if someone is nice or not, but that is not your fault, but theirs.
So THE trick is changing the game
Don’t take yourself so serious, because why should people NOT like you? Do you have one reason? Exactly. Be open for new contacts, be nice, avoid your phone (!) and if this all not happens, than find someone important to connect with. On events, people might see you as a threat / competing colleagues, so connect with the brands. Eventually, they are the ones who are the most important. Same with a new job, new school, on birthdays – you name it.
Besides being more open and avoiding that phone in your hand, you should wear something that makes you feel comfortable as well. Maybe not something that steals the show right away (than you get those jealous eyes), but something that suits you and gives you a comfortable feeling. We all have that one outfit that always looks good on us, so wear it, rock it, don’t be afraid and be confident!